If you chose the second question you are correct. Especially since this is a relationship column, I need everyone reading this to think about the story listed below:

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind.  She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her.   She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I would  marry you.'  One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.  He asked her,  'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?'  The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of  looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were  yours, they were mine.'

I am sure we have read this before, but how much thought did you put into it? I was amazed at how selfish she proved to be in the end. Alright, this  story may seem a little drastic but the point remains the same. We really want this fantastic person  in our life to treat us like a fairy tale romance would be. This person would be there in our time of need day or night. All we had to do was think it and it was done. They knew all we enjoyed and made it happen.

But then what, we would grow tired and bored with the person because they did everything and we felt there was no challenge to the relationship. But can you see the games we play with peoples emotion's. The girl spoken of in the story kept saying if I could see, I would marry you. However, why was he good enough to do all the nice things for you while you were blind and never complain. Was she really in love with him or just the things he did for her? You can see that he really loved her, he never complained about her being blind. He loved the person. One thing he failed to see though, was that she had a stipulation for marriage and that was sight.

The way I look at this is, that sometimes we must pay attention to what is being done as well as being said in a relationship so as not to be hurt or hurt someone. Learn to appreciate the person in your life for all that they do. Match their good deeds and bask in their smile of thankfulness. Hold them close and tell them the good qualities you see in them, life is so short to only love yourself. Funny though we must love ourselves first  in order to make anything work.

Clear your clutter and open up your heart and receive what's to be yours.